When I wrote my last post in November, I had no idea what doors it would open and close. I’ve forced myself to go down what feels like a hundred different rabbit holes of research, trying to decipher fact from fiction in the media, searching for the actual truth in topics fraught with bias and emotion… immigration, human rights, politics.
The experience has been been truly life changing because it’s challenged everything I’d always assumed to be fact. I’m just entering the learning curve, but I’ve already moved past tons of my own personal bias to see the world from the eyes of others. People believe what they do because they think it’s the truth. How can we ever come together as a world, country, town, business or family if we are not willing to see the world from the eyes of our opponents?
As part of my discovery process, I’ve been posting on social media with actively controversial topics. I even had the courage to attend an event I would have immediately scorned and dismissed just months ago. Having had the audacity to even question publicly has already cost me a slew of social media “friends” and the goodwill of someone I was just starting to date.
It is unbelievably scary to keep going and further risk negative public opinion and by extension, my safety, security and comfort. It’s also the right thing to do. Like it or not. Easy or not. The thing about change is that it can’t be stopped. It’s coming to the world all around me and the only thing I can do is get in front of the wave and ride it out. So that’s what I’m doing.
I met one of my besties for dinner on Friday night to walk through my greatest fear (abandonment) by forcing myself to be transparent and engage my questions with someone of super strong beliefs. When the evening was over, I had given voice to all questions and concerns and she had responded with calmness, thoughtfulness and thoroughly opposing opinions. Never once did she get offended or ask me to leave, and I was totally prepared for that worst case scenario. Instead, she said something to the effect that we have to love our friends with all our differences and if it gets too hard, then we steer clear of the painful topics until we can approach them with love and a true desire to find harmony. In other words, we don’t throw away our friends because we don’t agree with them.
I need to believe that’s really true, that love can and will triumph. Our world is a real mess and I’m greatly worried about our future. The only way I can see that we are going to get through it is with huge effort and willingness to put ourselves at risk for the greater good.
“Where we go one, we go all.”